The sexual orientation of a child's parents is a possible variable that could influence attachment style and well-being in later life. Assuming that there is a strong paternal connection between father and son and a strong maternal connection between mother and daughter (due to gender induced similarities), a child differing in sex from his/her homosexual caregivers could lack the bond that he/she would feel with their mother or father respectively. Thus, the child's relationship with his/her parents would lack elements of gender relatability needed to create a secure attachment.
A homosexual upbringing would effect a child in later life by shaping their opinions about romantic relationships, and could possibly make them uncertain as to what is expected of them in their own relationships. Curiosity from other children about the uniqueness of their family situation could make the child embarrassed and thus resentful of his parents. This could lead to an anxious/resistant attachment.
I would agree with you that this could be a factor. I think it is more important for kids to have two parental figures, no matter the sexual orientation. That being said, the quality of these relationships could be very different for a child with homosexual parents. Just looking at some studies online, it seems that children's perception of parenting doesn't change across different parent groups. But it is an interesting thing to consider.
I think that a parent's sexual orientation (in this case, homosexuality) can influence how the child grows up, but perhaps more important is the attitude towards it.
If the parents are open to talking about the situation, and make a point of talking about sexual orientation in a way that doesn't bother the child, then the child will grow up to actually be more confident in their actions and explaining their parent's sexuality. Because they have had to deal with common misconceptions but are prepared with strong information and parental support, I'd argue that this can reinforce a child's identity.
This also depends upon the child. If the child is naturally outgoing, and shows a stable temperament, then they will be able to adapt to the situation of having homosexual parents much faster. Should they be naturally avoidant or resistant, this temperament may influence their reaction to their parents, and cause them to resent the situation more.
I've seen the positive side to this situation in all of my friends who have homosexual parents, and I'd argue that because there are greater trends in stable temperaments, it is more likely that children will develop a stronger stable temperament due to dealing with this particular challenge.
-- Edited by Canute Haroldson on Monday 7th of November 2011 12:25:24 AM
